Monday, June 9, 2008

IS IT A CRIME?

My blog, how are you doing today? I know, I know it's been a while. Can't blame me o, summer has arrived and it has arrived by force, with full force. Summer school session has barely started and I'm already feeling the pressure. In fact this past weekend, I was feeling so overwhelmed; I'd rather not even talk about it. Ugh...

However it's the other part of my weekend that has brought me here this very moment. It has been bothering me so much especially since the issue was brought up yesterday again. Anyway so I've been telling a certain someone about how they need to stop drinking - you know now, gave the reasons why and blah, blah, blah. They claim it was only social drinking and it's only like maybe two bottles tops. Hmmm... na wa o, social drinking? Isn't that how problems usually start off? Social drinking, one/two/three bottles and then before you know it, full blown alcoholic. Or isn't that how it usually turns out? At least most of the time anyway?

Me I don't know o, I mean I only put in my two cents because I cared and still care but as far as they're concerned, it's a no-go area to stop drinking. As a matter of fact, the certain someone even told me not to worry that while they're drinking their beer, they'll also offer me wine so I wouldn't feel left out. In other words "You'll also have something to do, while I'm doing mine." Can you imagine? I won't lie sha; I burst out laughing cause that was not the response I was waiting for. But it only goes to show how nonchalant they are about the issue. Anywhoo there's nothing prayer cannot do abi? As far as I'm concerned this one must go by force by force...

Different day, same weekend - I brought up the fact that this certain someone is such a deep sleeper and that they might want to gradually change their sleeping habit. What if there's a fire (God forbid bad thing) or something else? Are you trying to tell me that they'll sleep right through it? Ha, please o I'm rejecting it for them! Please ask me who send me ehn, I was only voicing concern o. All hell broke loose. Not as much sha but still... see reaction!!! All the accusations started pouring in. "How can you tell me something like that; why would you even say that; why are you trying to change me?" Change you? That's the one that really really floored me and hurt my feelings. I couldn't believe it. And I don't even know why my feelings were hurt as much. I just know my heart got heavy and I couldn't say anything. Change you??? Wow.

What has 'your deep sleep scares me' got to do with changing who you are? Is it because I point out that they need to stop drinking or at least reduce it? By the time you attend all the parties available around town, with your friends, and you claim you're a social drinker, hasn't that elevated to the next level? serious lol... Or is it because I tell them to please watch their language especially when they're around me? What exactly have I done wrong here? Is it now a crime to look out for people you call good friends?

I honestly dunno why but I actually apologized!!! Maybe I just wanted the conversation to end immediately or perhaps just didn't want to upset the person more. Look mehn I just wasn't in the mood, like I said I was really overwhelmed with trying to deal with school stuff coming from left, right, and center. My God help me please o!!! Meanwhile I refuse to be a criminal...

3 comments:

Olu said...

Hmm, bebe! I haff been wayrin for an updateeeeeeeeeee!!!yay!! nehooz, I unrastand, the "certain someone" obviously got defensive and that is most peoples' immediate reaction to advice, especially if it is true, I mean I do it too but when I think back, it was for my own good. I remember when people would advice me to cut down on my soda drinking, that it was unhealthy, me sef I vex, I proclaimed 'norrin can come btw myself and my soda' to the glory of God sha, I have stopped drinkin soda altogether..and I am very proud of myself and now I advice people to stop drinking soda..same thing with the drinkin levels, its not good for the liver, me sef I used to 'drink' as young as I am o! all those who loved me begged me to stop, they got angry at me a couple of times but I no gree, I learnt my lesson by getting drunk and throwing up at my dad's friend's christmas parry in front of all d OLDER PEOPLE, chei, see dizzgrace...since that day I have also been a 'do not drink alcohol' advocate! I think you were right for apologising, its called being diplomatic..but I wud persist if I were you, then again it depends on how close you and the person are, cos in my case, if it is my close friends, I will keep saying my own, and if afta all effort, dem no gree hear me, I will kno in my heart that I tried my bezz, and even they go defensive on me, as cloz as we are..
yehpa, see ESSAY!!
itz naija!!

Shaywun said...

Omo sis blu, you're a trip!!! Your level of razzness is something else mehn lol. Essay or no essay, I've read and I've heard. That's just situations like this usually turn around - you'd have to disgrace yourself or hit a new lowest of lows before you realize. Hmmm...

Folayemi said...

Certainly, i say unto you, a certain day shall come when the "certain someone" shall desist from taking "certain drinks".

When the certain day comes, remember the certain blogger that told you so, cos you shall certainly hear these words.." I told you so"...